Every so often I see wedding planners that want to expand their horizons and get outside their comfort zone. I’ve found that the best thing you can do when you’re ready to try something new is to be open to new possibilities.
Wedding planners are pretty well-known for having a good time, but many of them end up in a lot of trouble. For those who want to try something new, I think it always helps to start small and just keep your eyes open and your ears open.
At last year’s wedding planning conference, I heard a speaker say something about how their client asked them to be more inclusive and less exclusionary. I think most wedding planners are pretty inclusive, but they often end up with a lot of trouble when they try to incorporate more people into their plans. I remember my own wedding planning conference experience with this speaker and I want to share it here.
In the early 70’s I made a mistake and married a man who had a medical condition. I am sure I could have avoided the situation altogether if I had just followed the advice I got from my own wedding planning conference. The problem is I had this man for my bride for 11 years. He had his own life and his own family and he didn’t want to mix with the rest of us. This is something I have never forgotten.
For those who love to plan their own weddings, the answer is to just ignore everyone else and their advice. You can always try to get a little bit of advice from others, but it’s always better to take your own advice, because you will not only have a more successful wedding but you will have a better person to spend the rest of your life with.
At least that’s what I think. I guess I just feel like, I’m not a very good planner, and I know I might not even have a good shot at planning a good wedding. Or at least a good idea. But I’m sure you’re not going to say I’m completely out of options.
You do have a good idea, but you don’t know it yet. In the same way that I don’t know it yet, you don’t know you can take the first step to building a better relationship with your guests. Because most of us will never have a perfect wedding.
This is a very common point of frustration for people. I know that I have often had to defend myself to people who wanted to talk seriously about the value of marriage and the importance of family. Often my responses have been something along the lines of, “I don’t know what you mean,” and then they start ranting about how important it was to them that I not only know what I know, but I know how to do it.
You may be hearing, “I dont know what you mean, i dont know how to do it” a ton over the last few months, but we’re here to tell you about how you can create a great wedding that you love. We’re here to help you make the most of your special day, not just with the flowers and the decorations, but with the people you choose to share it with. People love weddings because they love you. It’s the best feeling in the world.
So for this particular piece, I had one of the most amazing planners in the world on my side. She got me exactly what I wanted. I told her that I wanted my wedding to be a little more glamorous than her usual planning style, and she said no problem, we can make it a little more classy by adding some of her favorite things to the mix.